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Sunday, February 22, 2015

Announcements

Welcome to Madelin and her sons William and James!  They were baptized today after church.  The spirit was very strong.  I am so happy that they found the Gospel and our branch.  Everyone please make them feel welcome.


Our Relief Society room was nearly full today, I am very happy to report.  It was so great to see so many sisters gathered to learn.

Our activity last Saturday was also well attended.  Here are some helpful budgeting links:

This coming Sunday's lesson will be a presidency message given by Sister Paupulaire.  Please mark your calendars for building cleaning on March 7.

We are still collecting names of those interested in the LDS Employment Services workshop.  They won't come do a presentation out here for just 5 people, so please let me know if you are interested and spread the word around.  It will be sometime this Spring.

Lesson - Sunday, February 22: Lord, Is It I?

Today's lesson came from Elder Uchtdorf's talk during the October 2014 General Conference entitled "Lord, Is It I?".

Elder Uchtdorf starts by relating the story of the last supper.  The Lord turns to his disciples and informs them that one of them will betray Him.  No one doubted the Lord nor did they turn to each other and start pointing fingers. Instead, they sorrowfully asked, "Lord, is it I?".

"In these simple words, “Lord, is it I?” lies the beginning of wisdom and the pathway to personal conversion and lasting change."

The discussion that led from this story tied in with the lessons we have had the last few weeks.  We talked about the importance of not pointing to our fellow Branch members or neighbors or friends or family as examples of who needs changing.  We must look inward.  Sister Jean-Marie stated that for each finger we point out towards everyone, we probably have, or could have, several pointing back at us.  Additionally, the more positive we give out, the more positive that will come back to us.

Another story Elder Uchtdorf related was about a highly functioning and successful ward that his friend belonged to.  They had great home and visiting teaching numbers, great attendance, fantastic ward events and well behaved primary children.  Elder Uchtdorf's friend and his wife left on a mission; upon returning 3 years later, they learned that 11 marriages in that ward had ended in divorce.  No matter how things appear, we never know what is going on behind the scenes. 

"Such terrible and often unnecessary things happen when members of the Church become disengaged from gospel principles. They may appear on the outside to be disciples of Jesus Christ, but on the inside their hearts have separated from their Savior and His teachings. They have gradually turned away from the things of the Spirit and moved toward the things of the world." 

We were taught today that success starts in the home.  Even if we are dutifully attending church each week, it doesn't matter if we're not also praying and studying scriptures as a family and individually and nurturing our family through Family Home Evening and time spent together.  The effects of not doing those things will be seen years down the road and generations later.  We need to be converted in our hearts so that all aspects of our lives center around Christ.

When we listen to General Conference and are spiritually edified in our Sunday meetings, we should turn inward and use the teachings as a self-examination instead of thinking, "Oh, this lesson is definitely for Sister So-and-So" or "I hope Brother So-and-So is listening!".  We all have room for improvement so we should apply teachings to ourselves.

President Uchtdorf: "My dear brethren, will you please look inside your hearts and ask the simple question:
“Lord, is it I?” 
The words of the Apostle James apply to us today:
“God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. …
“Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.”13
Brethren, we must put aside our pride, see beyond our vanity, and in humility ask, “Lord, is it I?”
And if the Lord’s answer happens to be “Yes, my son, there are things you must improve, things I can help you to overcome,” I pray that we will accept this answer, humbly acknowledge our sins and shortcomings, and then change our ways by becoming better husbands, better fathers, better sons. May we from this time forward seek with all our might to walk steadfastly in the Savior’s blessed way—for seeing ourselves clearly is the beginning of wisdom."
 
Please take a minute to click on the link at the beginning of this summary at read the whole talk through.



Friday, February 20, 2015

Relief Society Activity

Calling all sisters - Tomorrow, Saturday the 21st - be at the church at 10 am - an exciting time will be had by all!

Employment Services Workshop

From Natanya -

I've spoken with Sister Spencer at the LDS Employment Services in the city about rescheduling the missed Career Workshop that we did not have. They have agreed to set a Saturday aside for us as long as we have a decent set of members interested. It will be for a few hours on that. (This will NOT be a one hour special). If interested please feel free to reply to this post so I can start a head count

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Announcements

Anyone who can make it, we will be practicing our As Sisters in Zion/Have I Done Any Good medley tonight at 6 right before scripture study. As always, reach out if you need a ride.

Sunday, February 15, 2015

Announcements

Scripture study group is now at 6:30 on Wednesdays at the church.

Our Relief Society activity is this Saturday at 10AM at the church.  Bring your friends, bring your neighbors, bring yourself!  If you don't have a ride, reach out the presidency.

February 15 Lesson - Ezra Taft Benson #4: Living Joyfully in Troubled Times

I absolutely loved this lesson.  The very phrase "Living Joyfully" rings truth to my soul.  We are here on earth to be joyful; Heavenly Father, as a loving parent, wants nothing less for us and has shown us how to have true joy.  Sister Bim taught us today, which was very fitting.  Anyone who sees her can see that she radiates joy.

A few stories from Ezra Taft Benson's life started out the lesson.  He talked about visiting with German Saints and other citizens in the troubled aftermath of WWII.  Despite their near starvation and deprived situations, they still gathered in Sacrament meeting to worship Christ with hope and love, not depression and dejection. 

Elder Maxwell noted President Benson as a "careful watcher of events, [who] maintains a certain buoyancy and cheerfulness we would do well to watch.  Such buoyancy comes not from ignoring enveloping events, but from noticing these and yet looking beyond them to promises having to do with how the kingdom will finally prevail."

We went on to discuss how faith can help us live joyfully.  Faith allows us to have hope that things will turn out well.  Faith can also go deeper; there are many confusing messages bombarding us everywhere today.  The Lord has his moral code that we live by in the church but is not necessarily the moral code surrounding us.  It's easy to get caught up in the different messages and it is natural for some to struggle with teachings that may go against their natural inclinations.  Having faith in Christ allows the opportunity to take the things we are struggling with, choose to believe and accept it enough (because we trust Christ) to plant a seed in our hearts and then let that seed take root.  There are so many ways to apply faith in our lives as more than just an abstract concept.

"Without faith in our Heavenly Father, we cannot be successful.  Faith gives us a vision of what may happen, hope for the future and optimism in our present tasks.  Where faith is, we do not doubt the ultimate success of the work."

"Of all people, we as Latter-day Saints should be the most optimistic and the least pessimistic."  Why do you think that is?

The first sentence of section 2 states: "We have no cause to really worry".  Sister Bim took that phrase apart to have us understand the significance of the word 'really'.  "We have no cause to worry" isn't necessarily true; there are many things around us that can and should cause us concern.  But President Benson added the word 'really' in there - we don't need to really worry because we have faith and hope and we know the Lord will protect those who follow him.

"Be cheerful in all that you do.  Live joyfully.  Live happily.  Live enthusiastically, knowing God does not dwell in gloom and melancholy but in light and love."  I think that should be the motto for everyone!  We have been talking about free agency a lot - choosing to live joyfully is the ultimate privilege of that precious gift.

There are times when it is really difficult to choose happiness.  Satan tries hard to beat us down and things aren't as clear as they may have been the day before.  Ezra Taft Benson stated: "There are times when you simply have to righteously hang on and outlast the devil until his depressive spirit leaves you."  There is so much truth to that statement; just hang on until he leaves you!

A comment today was "Living happily requires effort".  We are here on earth, after all, to learn and grow.  Happiness is not just given to us; like with all good things, it requires action on our part.  That goes back to agency. 

Please take a minute to read through this lesson this week.  It is so uplifting.  I pray it will give you strength this week and in the weeks to come.  We know things are only going to get harder there, so shore up your mental defenses now!

Friday, February 13, 2015

This Week's Job Listings

Housekeeper/Babysitter
Details:
Looking for someone to clean, prepare easy meals and drive my kids every once in a while. The schedule is flexible, 
looking for 3 days. 1:30-6:30 or 2-7.schwartzbergw@yahoo.com

Looking for PT driving nanny in Livingston 2:30pm-6:30pm M-F


Details:
Looking for an amazing, caring, reliable afternoon nanny with a clean driving record, references and own car. I have 2 girls (ages 6 & 9). 

Hours: Monday-Friday, 2:30pm -6:30pm 

Responsibilities would include: 
- picking kids up from school (same school) in Livingston 
- preparing snack 
- doing homework 
- driving to and from activities 

Please contact me 
- by email :jodie@visionts.com 
- by phone (or text) 908-303-1003 

Seeking a nanny for May and June in Maplewoood


Details:
Seeking an experienced nanny for our 12 month old daughter for short term job. Needed for two months from the end of April to the end of June - 30-35 hours per week - partial days Monday and Tuesday, and all day Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays. Will will have just moved to Maplewood.

Immediate PT nanny/babysitter needed


Details:

I am a SAHM with a badly sprained ankle, two toddlers, and a husband about to leave for a week business trip. I need someone who can start ASAP, to help me with the kids and some light housework. 

Must be great with a 1 year old and a 3 year old. Please be outgoing, creative, nurturing and loving. My 3 year old is very imaginative and active and needs someone who can keep up with him! 

Please email ASAP with a little bit about yourself. We would need to meet with you this weekend and have you start coming on Monday, for 4-6 hours each day next week, and possibly into the next week. 

On call reliable babysitter


Details:
Hi , 
My name is Christina, I am a 28 yr old mom of a soon to be 9 month old baby girl. We are in need of a on call reliable babysitter ASAP. I am looking for a long term babysitter to watch my 9 month old when she gets sick. My husband and I are looking for someone who has at least 2 or more years experience with infants. Has to be at least 18 yrs or older. So far the hours would be 1:45pm-5:30pm with a little flexibility and possibly more hours which we can discuss further. Job would be basic child care, tidy up after kid, maybe wash a few dishes and bottles, and babies laundry only. Pay can be discussed over the phone. You can reach me at 973-860-8182, I look forward to hearing from you! 

Sunday, February 8, 2015

Reminders

A reminder for all sisters to show up at church at 10AM this coming Sunday so we can quickly practice our musical number prior to Sacrament Meeting.  The time has finally come to perform!  Practice your voices this week and join in the fun.

Next Sunday's lesson will be from the Ezra Taft Benson manual, #4: Living Joyfully in Troubled Times.  Please read this week so we can have a great discussion.

The link for our 4th Sunday lesson has been posted to the right in the Handy Links section.  It is from President Uchtdorf's Priesthood meeting talk and is entitled: Lord, Is It I?

Lesson - Sunday, February 8: Ezra Taft Benson #3, Freedom of Choice, an Eternal Principle

Sister Garibaldi taught chapter #3 from our Ezra Taft Benson manual today.

The topic segued nicely from where we left off last week when we talked about the war in Heaven and our fight for agency.  To be like Christ, we have to come to Earth and have trials and challenges in order to grow and learn.  Satan's plan would have returned us all to heaven, yes, but it would have returned us exactly the same as when we left. 

President Benson talks about all the hard work that was required of him when he worked on his family's farm while growing up.  He quickly learned the practical consequences of good and bad choices - working hard resulted in buckets of milk, trucks loaded with hay and pay.  He also observed the peace and happiness that came his parents being faithful to each other and the Lord.  "...whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap" (Galatians 6:7).  Sister Garibaldi shared a story from her youth when she was offered a job washing and ironing.  She excelled and was quickly offered more and more work as word of her capability spread.  If you work hard, you receive blessings.

Another comment centered on work being a commandment.  Adam and Eve had everything given to them until they were driven out of the Garden of Eden.  They were then told that they would have to work for everything by the sweat of their brow.  "Six days shalt thou labor, and do all thy work.  But the seventh is the Sabbath of the Lord..." (Deuteronomy 5:13-14).  While most of us realize that keeping the Sabbath day holy is a commandment, the reverse of this scripture is also true:  It is a commandment to work.

"Freedom of choice is a God-given eternal principle. The great plan of liberty is the plan of the gospel. There is no coercion about it; no force, no intimidation. A man is free to accept the gospel or reject it. He may accept it and then refuse to live it, or he may accept it and live it fully. But God will never force us to live the gospel. He will use persuasion through His servants. He will call us and He will direct us and He will persuade us and encourage us and He will bless us when we respond, but He will never force the human mind."

The war of Heaven is still raging on Earth in both obvious and subtle ways.  The adversary is sneaky and manipulative and will look for any way to break into our will and slowly start to take our agency from us.  Little things like debt, lack of self-sufficiency, lying will chip away at our free agency.  Be careful and protect what you fought for in the pre-existence.

"The biggest business of any life is making decisions. While one of the greatest gifts of God to man is … the right of choice, he has also given man responsibility for these choices. … We put our own lives in the direction of success or failure. We may not only choose our ultimate goals, but we may also determine and decide for ourselves, in many cases, the means by which we will arrive at those goals, and by our industry or lack of it determine the speed by which they may be reached. This takes individual effort and energy."
 
The beautiful thing about our Heavenly Father and Christ is that they will never leave us alone.  They are always there to lead us and guide us.  Therefore, when we have crucial decisions to make, we also are blessed to be able to approach the Lord to assist us in those decisions.  The answers to our prayers may sometimes take great effort on our part but that is also part of the growth experience here on Earth. 
 
"Wise decisions are usually arrived at following work, struggle, and prayerful effort. The Lord’s response to Oliver Cowdery’s ineffective effort makes this clear: “But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right.” (D&C 9:8.)
Let us begin, therefore, by saying that earnestly seeking our Father in heaven, having faith that he will answer our prayers, is a comforting base on which to begin. … The Lord will not take water from a dry well, so we must do our part. Sometimes attempting to find a correct decision takes great amounts of energy, study, and long-suffering.
In decisions of crucial importance, fasting combined with prayer can bring great spiritual insight."
 
Many sisters today commented that it is easier to make right choices the more right choices you make; they become stronger against temptation as they learn from their mistakes and act accordingly.
 
“For behold, it is not meet that I should command in all things; for he that is compelled in all things, the same is a slothful and not a wise servant; wherefore he receiveth no reward.
“Verily I say, men should be anxiously engaged in a good cause, and do many things of their own free will, and bring to pass much righteousness;
“For the power is in them, wherein they are agents unto themselves. And inasmuch as men do good they shall in nowise lose their reward.
“But he that doeth not anything until he is commanded, and receiveth a commandment with doubtful heart, and keepeth it with slothfulness, the same is damned.” (D&C 58:26–29.)
 
 

Saturday, February 7, 2015

February Newsletter


Lesson - Sunday, February 1, 2015: Christ's Atonement in Our Lives

Last Sunday's lesson was on how to allow Christ's atonement to heal your relationships with your family, friends and within our branch.  It was taken from one of my favorite books, The Peacegiver by James L. Ferrell.


1) Stories from Abigail
  • In 1st Samuel, we read of the story of David, Nabal and Abigail.  David was in hiding from King Saul in the wilderness with many of his followers.  Eventually, David send some of his men to Nabal to request food and supplies.  They pointed out how they had been friends to Nabal while protecting his flocks and men.  Nabal rudely turned them down and sent them on their way.  This infuriated David, who immediately ordered his men to prepare for battle.  He and 400 men set off to wipe out Nabal and his estate.
  • In the meantime, some of Nabal's men heard of David's response to Nabal's rebuff.  They went to Abigail, Nabal's wife, and let her know that David was marching towards them and also reported how David had been a friend to the estate and didn't deserve such treatment at the hands of her husband.  Without hesitation, Abigail requested her servants to gather all the food and supplies that David and his men could possibly need and then set off with the supplies to meet David.
  • David and his forces met Abigail on their march to Carmel.  She got off her donkey and bowed to the ground before David. 
  • "Upon me, my lord, upon me let this iniquity be," Abigail begged David.  "Please accept of my offering, that this shall be no grief unto thee...I beg for my house, yes, but for thee also, my lord, that this shall not be an offence of heart unto thee, either that thou hast shed blood causeless..."
    • How is Abigail a type of Christ?
      • She brought David everything he needed:  Bread, wine, sheet, etc.  Christ provides for our spiritual and physical needs as well.
      • She took Nabal's rebuff on her own head as Christ takes our sins on his head. 
      • She offered David redemption.  "David's heart burned with envy and rage and had turned from the spirit.  Unless and until he was redeemed from that sinfulness, he would never taste eternal life" (pg. 51).
        • This story is not of Nabal's sin but David's.  Abigail was offering a safe environment for David to forgive but asking him to forgive her and atoning for Nabal's sins.
  • The atonement is as much for the benefit of the sinned against (the victim of sin) as for the sinner.  Christ has atoned for others' sins as well as our own and, in essence, as Abigail did for David, he is asking us to forgive him because he paid for the others' sin and took it on himself.  Withholding forgiveness from others is really a withholding from the Lord.
    • Forgiveness is really for the sinned against more than the one who sinned.  It saves our hearts and souls from being in a sinful state.
  • One of the effects of sin is to invite the sinned against to become sinful themselves.  The atonement provides the escape from this provocation to sin.
2) Stories from Jonah
  • In Jonah, we read of the story of Jonah, who was asked to go preach in Ninevah.  He recoiled from the assignment and fled to Tarshish to hide.
    • In Jonah's mind, Ninevah didn't deserve to be saved.  They were a warring people that had ravaged cities all over the area and had demanded payment from those they didn't destroy.  They had hurt Jonah's people and, from prophecy, Jonah knew that they would soon raid and destroy his city.  He was angry towards these people and didn't want to save them; he wanted them to get what they deserved.
      • What do we actually deserve?  Without the atonement, aka Christ's sacrifice and mercy, all we really deserve is hell.  You, Jonah, our neighbors, our friends and our enemies.  If Jonah wanted Ninevah to get what they deserved, he must also demand the same of himself.  His heart was not in a place to receive Christ's mercy so he was just as sinful as Ninevah. 
      • Whether or not Ninevah is righteous is critical, but only for Ninevah, not for Jonah.  Whether your neighbor is treating you fairly or not or whether another person in the branch has wronged you is critical only for that person, not for you.  Where is your heart?  With the Ninevites or with Christ?
  • Jonah eventually starts preaching to the Ninevites and revels in the prophecies of destruction he is preaching: "You will be destroyed if you don't repent!".  Much to his chagrin, Ninevah does repent and that leaves Jonah fuming.
  • The book of Jonah ends with a question: Should not I spare Ninevah?  Jonah's answer is not given because it matters only to him, just as the answer to that question (replacing Ninevah with the name of someone you are struggling with) matters only to you.
  • Your peace is determined not by others but by yourself.
3) How to Apply - Using our Agency
  • The great war in Heaven was fought over one fundamental thing: Agency.  We put all at stake in the pre-existence to war with Satan to ensure that we had this right on Earth.  It was important to each and every one of us before we came here and we should fight to retain that right while we are here.
  • Sinning slowly conditions us to give away our agency.  Each time you hold onto something in your heart against someone, that sin settles more and more in you until, eventually, when you see that person or are in a certain situation, your body and mind automatically react with sin and negativity.  For example, someone wrongs you and you stew over it instead of forgiving.  Each time you see the person, you remind yourself anew of how you were wronged.  In time, that feeling will become ingrained and automatic in you when you see the person.  Your agency to choose those feelings is slowly taken from you by Satan, just as a drug addiction or takes away your agency to choose those substances.
    • Warring hearts allow Satan to capture our wills and take our agency, the very agency we fought so hard for.
  • When the Lamanites buried their weapons of war in the Book of Mormon, they "buried them deep" so they wouldn't be tempted so easily to dig them up again.  Bury your weapons of war deep as well - harsh thoughts, negative emotions, judgments against others, etc.
4) All this is possible be exercising your agency to accept Christ's offer of redemption.  It is your choice to "remain gripped by despair or find your way to joy".  Choose your own peace, don't let others determine it for you because, by so doing, you are rejecting the agency you once found vitally important to your happiness.

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